TSJMajesty
Fractal Fanatic
That's almost the exact thing I've said. Being in a band is like being married, but instead of 1 person's personality, quirks, annoyances, etc. that you have to deal with, there's 3 or 4.
I once read an article about how to best handle the issues a band presents. The author basically said you need to treat it like a business venture, and put every detail in writing: How often you want to gig, types of music you'll play, how you'll handle money, etc. Basically, everything that could be a source of future disagreements needs to be included. I don't completely agree, but the idea of setting as many expectations as possible/practical up front, does make a lot of sense. I think his name is Tom Hess.
He also said, by having it in writing, you'd refer back to it in order to resolve the issues, which would make it less "personal," than just one guy calling the shots. Which I suppose makes sense in theory, but after being in lots of band disagreements, my feeling is there needs to be a leader, and not necessarily a democracy. Although having a good blend of personality types is very helpful. Having 2 Type-A's in a band can lead to war. (Unless you happen to agree on everything.)
