Jimmytwotimes
Experienced
Having been a drummer for almost 20 years in all kinds of bands, I learned you must be very aware of your volume at all times. Most of us aren't playing arenas where you can bang away. There were many times when I would get loud without realizing it and band mates would give me a signal to chill out a bit. When you're in the moment it can be hard to maintain tempo AND volume. I never took it as criticism - they we're helping me. Can you just talk to the drummer and tell him to watch his volume when he has the IEM's in?