For those of you using in-ears, do you have a full band monitor mix going to them? I would think if it was just my signal from my Axe, that'd be the only thing I would hear and not the rest of the band. I like a "more me" mix with the others pulled in, but not an "all me" mix
Full band mix in stereo, like this my own guitar is panned slightly left, the other guitar slightly right.
Ditto. I'm in my right ear, other guitar in my left, everything else straight up the middle. I avoid putting more than a pinch of bass guitar though otherwise it's easy to hit the limiter on my ears. Also, mic the hi-hat. Even in small clubs... otherwise you'll be watching the drummer like a hawk on some intros.