Start with a known good preset like any of the first 50 simple amp/cab factory presets. These "sound well" and have a "nice tone". They may not necessarily be your favourite tones but that's how various amps are supposed to sound like. There's always going to be some differences as the physics are simply different when you strap speakers to your ears vs having speakers in any room. And in the end hearing is always subjective and you will hear things differently from day to day, first thing in the morning vs late at night and so on so when you say "they don't sound well", that on its own is useless unless you quantify that with "compared to...", what you're expecting to hear and what you feel is missing. If you're strictly looking for a recorded tone, do a web search for isolated guitar tracks and you will find examples of tone that has been used for recordings as a reference point. But you can safely trust that this is not an equipment problem. When you're dealing with some of the highest quality stuff like the Axe Fx 2 and beyerdynamics, swapping headphones to say the Blue MoFi's is not going to the difference between bad and good, it's going to be very slightly different where you maybe perceive one to have slightly more presence, or one slightly more clarity in the bass, and things like that, that will only be noticeable in a direct A/B test. So get yourself some reference points you can use for dialling in your own presets.
