TSJMajesty
Fractal Fanatic
I've always had issues with getting nervous when playing for others. I have to get control of it sort of in stages. First, I have to get comfortable just playing in front of someone, anyone, even if it's just a friend who comes over. Then, it's rehearsing with other musicians. Then it's getting on stage to play. Then it'll be that challenging solo.
Until I can get past this "stage-fright" thing, it's so bad my hands will literally shake. I cannot help it. But as I get comfortable along each step of the way, it passes, and I get control of it. But it takes a lot of times doing it. Like if I was to get together with some new guys, say if I were to audition for a band, I'd have to play with them several times before my nerves would relax. And it wouldn't even matter if I happened to be the best musician in the room. Once I get to the point where I'm always relaxed during rehearsals, then the same kind of nervousness gets me all over again the first time we play out. Fortunately it's not as bad as when I first play with a band, but it still takes several songs before I settle down, and many gigs before it all but goes away.
So tonight I tried for the 2nd time to make just a simple, short video on my phone, and my hands started shaking til I was just fucking up. Just making a stupid phone VIDEO!! I can't even convince myself mentally that it's no big deal, because if I don't get it right, I can delete the video, and do it again! UFB! The only thing that makes it go away is repetition. Being able to play whatever it is at a tempo beyond my comfort zone helps, but is still no guarantee. I hate this part of me.
I'm sure I'm not alone in dealing with nerves, so I'm curious to what extent this issue affects others, and how you deal with it. Because if I do end up getting back into playing with other musicians, in any capacity, I want to get this under control. At least a lot better than it is. It surprises my musician friends that I get it as bad as I do.
Until I can get past this "stage-fright" thing, it's so bad my hands will literally shake. I cannot help it. But as I get comfortable along each step of the way, it passes, and I get control of it. But it takes a lot of times doing it. Like if I was to get together with some new guys, say if I were to audition for a band, I'd have to play with them several times before my nerves would relax. And it wouldn't even matter if I happened to be the best musician in the room. Once I get to the point where I'm always relaxed during rehearsals, then the same kind of nervousness gets me all over again the first time we play out. Fortunately it's not as bad as when I first play with a band, but it still takes several songs before I settle down, and many gigs before it all but goes away.
So tonight I tried for the 2nd time to make just a simple, short video on my phone, and my hands started shaking til I was just fucking up. Just making a stupid phone VIDEO!! I can't even convince myself mentally that it's no big deal, because if I don't get it right, I can delete the video, and do it again! UFB! The only thing that makes it go away is repetition. Being able to play whatever it is at a tempo beyond my comfort zone helps, but is still no guarantee. I hate this part of me.
I'm sure I'm not alone in dealing with nerves, so I'm curious to what extent this issue affects others, and how you deal with it. Because if I do end up getting back into playing with other musicians, in any capacity, I want to get this under control. At least a lot better than it is. It surprises my musician friends that I get it as bad as I do.