This is horrible news I'm so sorry for your loss.
Dear Rod, I don't know you but feel I know you a little having read many of your posts. As a pastor (previously a lawyer ..... go figure) for more than 45 years in ministry I understand something of your deep sadness having dealt with death and dying in that time. To know what to say to grieving folks is often difficult. The hope that Jesus brings is real. From your posts, I think I recall that you play in the band at your church? I believe that you know the God of all grace can bring comfort and the joy of precious memories in the midst of your pain. I realise that forums often don't appreciate the "religious" element being introduced into threads but there are times when it is appropriate. No matter what people on this forum believe or don't believe, my experience of years on here, tells me that there are a lot of caring guys here who sincerely feel for you and that is evidenced by the number of replies. Every blessing Rod and thanks for your contribution to this community. Peter