Well, as the OP...
a) I love my wife. We've been married A Long Time, don't plan on changing that.
b) The word "my" in that sentence most certainly does not refer to or imply ownership, any more than if she says I'm "her" husband. We are each other's spouse, no ownership. How do you refer to "your" wife/partner/brother? How do they refer to you?
c) My wife has strengths and weaknesses of all sorts, like me and you all and everyone else. This one's not a deal-breaker for me.
d) I help her with tech all the time, even tech I don't really know about like i-things.
e) Sometimes I get a little run-down about too much of it, hence this thread. I didn't yell at her, humiliate her, trade her in, etc.. I vented a bit, with a dash of humor, on a forum she'll never read, out of harm's way. And was back trying to help her right after.